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What doesn’t Kill you makes you Stronger


Today I thought I would start with a song by Kelly Carlson; you can see the video here


What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone
What doesn’t kill you makes a fighter
Footsteps even lighter
Doesn’t mean I’m over ’cause you’re gone


When things go sour in your life when bad things happen to you, what’s your self-therapy? What do you tell yourself to help you cope with the challenge? How do you overcome life’s challenges? Let’s face it; no one goes through life without challenges.


I didn’t have an ideal life growing up. Who does? But I grew up with relatives who seemed to have it all, and I admit I was envious. When bad things happened, I asked why I couldn’t be like them. As I got older, I realized their life wasn’t as I envisioned it. We each have to live through our challenges. We each have our own journey. There is no point in being jealous of where someone else starts. We have to walk our path.


But back to the question, what do you do when bad things happen? How do you cope? Hardships exist to bring us to a better and deeper place.

Suppose matters look bleak because something more profound, better, and meaningful is in store for you. I am still that work-in-progress optimist. But this is how I can make sense of the world.


What helps me is taking better care of myself. In the past few years, I have made efforts to get healthy. I practice martial arts to help me focus. I pray to G-d most mornings. I wasn’t an alcoholic, but I drank nightly to get to sleep. I didn’t realize how much alcohol affected me until I stopped drinking. I am on day 49 of walking at least 10,000 steps a day. Today, I have already walked 16,700 steps. That is almost 7 miles. This year I am trying to sleep at least seven hours a day. Before, I was averaging five hours a night.


Exercise daily, get enough sleep, and don’t consume things that will hurt your body. None of these things alone helps me overcome the challenges we each face. But more sleep, exercise, and stopping hurting myself give me the resiliency to tackle big problems. Nothing changes overnight, but how you look at the world might. Change your perspective and make a small change every day. After 365 days of small changes, I promise you will be in a better place.


As Kelly sings, you will be stronger, walk a little taller, and footsteps will be a little lighter.


Andres “Walking Beside You” Mejer


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