I was thinking about friendship when I came across this quote that I wanted to share with
I was sitting on a beach one summer day, watching two children, a boy and a girl,
playing in the sand. They were hard at work building an elaborate sand castle by the
water’s edge, with gates and towers and moats and internal passages. Just when they
had nearly finished their project, a big wave came along and knocked it down, reducing it
to a heap of wet sand.
I expected the children to burst into tears, devastated by what had happened to all their
hard work. But they surprised me. Instead, they ran up the shore away from the water,
laughing and holding hands, and sat down to build another castle.
I realized that they had taught me an important lesson. All the things in our lives, all the
complicated structures we spend so much time and energy creating, are built on sand.
Only our relationships to other people endure. Sooner or later, the wave will come along
and knock down what we have worked so hard to build up. When that happens, only the
person who has somebody’s hand to hold will be able to laugh.
Rabbi Harold Kusher, from “When All You’ve Ever Wanted isn’t Enough.”
In life, if we are fortunate, we start with a few good friends. Then, our circles broaden
and expand. We may become closer to some and drift apart from others. Perhaps we
had someone we thought was a good friend, but when an emergency came, they
disappeared. And sometimes someone may be a dearly dedicated friend when times
are tough but disappear when there is cause to celebrate. As life progresses, we often
see more clearly who our honest, trustworthy, and loyal friends are. And, as we know, a
few good friends are enough to see us through life.
In the Bible, I can think of two examples of friendship:
The first example is Jonathan and David, who promised eternal friendship between their
children. (I Samuel 20:42). Jonathan saved David when Johnathan’s father, King Saul,
wanted to kill him, even though David was a threat to his inheritance.
Second is Ruth and Naomi. Their husbands are dead. Their prospects in Moab are
bleak. Naomi returns to Israel and suggests Ruth stay with their families in Moab. She
refuses. “Where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge,” she insists. “Your
people shall be my people, and your God my God” (Ruth 1:16).
You have all heard the expression, you learn who your friends are when times are tough?
Anybody detained by immigration or the police finds out very quickly who their true
friends are: Who will answer your phone call? Who will come to visit? Who helps your
family or kids? I remember the fear when I learned my loved on was indicted. And when
he went to jail. I learned a valuable lesson then. Too many immigrants have experienced
that crisis, and most immigrants still fear getting that call.
Andres “Your Friend” Mejer
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